10 (More) Ways to Say No (with Kindness)

10 (More) Ways to Say No (with Kindness)

When you say “Yes” to others, make sure you are not saying “No” to yourself.

Paulo Coehlo

When it comes time to say No to someone or something, many of us struggle.

Especially around the holidays.

There’s just something about this time of year that makes us want to push back against the limits, and go to extremes…

With our spending.
Our schedules
And our expectations of others (and ourselves).

We don’t want to hurt, disappoint, or offend our friends, kids, or neighbors. And so we breach the boundaries we set for ourselves, in the name of “doing it all”.

And while our intentions are noble… trying to be everything to everyone is a recipe for holiday burnout.

The antidote?

We must learn to say no.

Last year, we shared a series of posts all about the value of setting holiday boundaries.

In the second post, we shared that it’s possible to set a firm boundary with kindness and generosity.

A year later, we figured we all could use a refresher.

So, we’re back with some practical applications for you.

Read on for 10 (more) ways to say no (with kindness) this season:

1. “Unfortunately, we can’t buy that this year.”

2. “I’m sorry, but we don’t have space to accommodate everyone comfortably.”

3. “I wish I could, but I won’t be able to volunteer at this year’s event.”

4. “We’d love to catch up with your family after the New Year.”

5. “It made me smile to receive your card in the mail! We’ve opted not to send one this year.”

6. “Nope, I have no plans to diet this month. But good luck with your 30-day challenge!”

7. “We’re fortunate to have more loved ones than space in the calendar this year! We’re disappointed to be missing your party…”

8. “I’m sorry, but I’ve reached my budget for financial giving this month. How else can I help?”

9. “Thanks, but I’ve decided to give up political debates at family gatherings. I’d love to hear more about your new job, though!”

10. “While I’m honored to be considered for the project, I’ve set aside the weekends for family time this month.”

…and a bonus one:

11. “I’m sorry, but that day won’t work for me. I’ve got an appointment at Sonder!”


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